Life can change in an instant. Chances are, if you’re 20 years or older, you know this truth. Life, in its majestic wonder, can sometimes be unkind with its paths of uncertainty and forced goodbyes. In the blink of an eye, all that was once familiar, secure, and steady is now out of reach. No misdeeds necessary. No signature required. The current just suddenly shifts, setting us adrift in uncharted waters with no map or plan of rescue.
Today marks 25 years since the car accident. It’s rather surreal to say that. In 1992, I carried the belief that surely by the year 2000 there would be a cure for spinal cord injuries. That belief has been my saving grace in those early years. Science has advanced, of course, but we are not there yet. In my lifetime perhaps, but not today. Not tomorrow.
Regardless, I write this with a smile and a grateful heart because my journey has been a remarkable one, an incredible voyage of self-discovery. I tell you this because maybe you can relate and perhaps you will consider yours in the same light. Here you are … and hopefully you are smiling too. We have survived the swift current, rocky shores, and relentless winds. Some wounds are cloaked by time, other scars claim a place on our skin. Despite it all, we are here, my friends. We are still here.
Loss, in any form, is painful (family, friends, health, mobility, love…). We know the agony of it because we live and love deeply. Simply put … if it doesn’t hurt, it probably didn’t matter. I cried many tears for the losses in my life. It was never a burden, but a true testament to the joy and love that existed. I wouldn’t change the course because of the outcome. It was worth it.
I’ve come to understand that life is a continuous journey of becoming. If we anchor ourselves to yesterday, we are bound to miss the beauty that lies before us. And there is so much beauty. Remarkable things transpire from this awareness and acceptance. But to begin we must let go. Let go of the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, the fear of the unknown. Fear claims too many dreams; and weary hearts make easy prey.
There really are no certainties in life. Every step is one of faith. A compilation of the trials we’ve overcome and the desire to carry on, and, in some cases, begin again. So let’s embrace the journey, love deeply, and hold no burden of regret when night settles in.
Be bold, be brave, and just breathe … let’s release our fears into the custody of the wind.
Much love to all, XO